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| So...why don't you email me? |
| 01.31.06 (6:38 pm) [edit] |
I was sitting in my social psych lecture today and my prof brought up an issue that I believe to be extremely interesting and relevant in modern society. I've seen this phenomenon transform a silly, small issue to gynormous proportions in the space of one email.
"Status, emotions, formality and nonverbal cues are lost in e-mail communication. A comment that would easily be interpreted as a friendly joke can seem like a nasty remark when it is stripped of the accompanying smile, so choose your words carefully. In a phone conversation, the natural give and take of a conversation means that misunderstandings can be cleared up immediately, but the shorthand of e-mail, combined with the delay between questions and responses, make furtile breeding grounds for massive misunderstandings. Stripped of its usual context, email communicaton can be ambiguous, permitting recipients to assume that the intended meaning is whatever they expect it to be. If you are exchanging messages with someone you distrust or dislike, an ambiguous message may be assumed to be more hostile than it was intended to be, and even an amicable joke can come across like a stinging insult." (Dr. Diane Halpern, 2004)
I've run into this problem on many occasions. (I secretly hope someone from my family is reading this). My problem is that I hate typing emails. I hate buttering them up with stupid flowery garbage to try to dilute the message, or soften it for someone else's benifit. I am a direct person, and when you talk to me face to face, you understand that. I'm not an asshole...I just get to the point. But, the problem is that I write the same way I speak. People don't "GET" it and they think I'm really saying something I'm not, or meaning something that I'm not coming out and saying...even though I didn't really say anything. Is anyone following me here?
The point is, people should realize how many aspects of reliable communicaton are being lost through electronic mail. And having realized this, make allowances for the benefit of the doubt instead of coming to stupid-assed conclusions and making things worse.
Hey...I'm not saying I'm innocent of this. But I'm learning. And I'm working on it. It'd be nice if others did the same.
This is why certain people don't get emails from me anymore...ahem(family people). It just isn't worth it, 'cause no one hears what I'm REALLY saying anyhow.
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posted by: care (reply)
post date: 02.01.06 (9:55 pm)
WHaT! hOw DAre you write something LIKe thAT in your blog... !!! i was just .... just sooo... offENDED!!!!
hee hee hee...
okay, even I couldn't type that with a straight face...
neat observation, particularily in chatrooms where one comment can be jumped on by many a person... tis funny to watch... and occassionally funny to instigate...
I'll send off an email tomorrow or sumpin... heh... if you don't get mad at it and wind up baleting me... lol
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